Love for Black Hair: Why It IS That Deep

I have the utmost respect women with long, highly textured hair. Long hair is a testament to hard work for all hair types but I know first-hand the unique challenges our hair can present.  Our hair is delicate, chronically dry and can be a bit daunting to manage. Yet, in spite of this, more and more women are growing their hair to previously unimaginable lengths!  Coming back from setbacks, staying committed to your regimen, and overcoming adversity (read: haters) can truly make ours a hair journey.
Think about the state of your hair as itgrows from the scalp. Our natural curls, coils and kinks prevent sebum (scalp’s natural oil) from easily traveling down the hair shaft which results in dry hair. Those with looser curl patterns have sebum to spare because the oil has no difficulty making it down the hair shaft. Dry hair + manipulation = breakage. If you further compromise your hair with chemical straightening, you’re dealing with protein AND moisture issues. Then there’s heat abuse, environmental issues, mechanical damage…I think you get my point.
Whether you’re natural or relaxed, people are going to offer their $0.02;  it’s your choice if you accept their deposit. You can take positive feedback to the bank but hurtful comments are like counterfeit bills: absolutely worthless. Trying something different can make others uncomfortable because it forces them to consider their own choices. Don’t let their insecurities rub off on you.
It’s not a question of these ladies having “good hair” or just the luck of the draw; it’s about dedication. 98% of the time, flourishing strands are a directresult of a well-planned regimen. There are exceptions where some women are able to enjoy long hair with minimal work but this isn’t the norm. Keeping your hair conditioned, scalp clean and implementing protective styling are a few ways to help your hair reach its peak. 
While the list of potential hair pitfalls seems never-ending, the number of women of color with considerable length is on the rise. I considered myself an anomaly because of my love obsession but then I realized that my sense of awe is totally justified. Black hair is amazing and so are the women that care for it.
Have you ever really considered the miracle that is black hair? Do you have to deal with unwanted commentary on your hair choices? How did you handle it? What is the most challenging aspect of your hair journey?

-Ms. Tai Nycole
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Why Weave Checking is Fundamentally Wrong

Allow me to preface this post with the fact that asking me if my hair is “all mine” and then starting a conversation is the bestway to “weave check” me. We’ve opened up the lines of communi-cation, you’ve boosted my ego and I’ve (hopefully) dropped some knowledge on you that you can use moving forward.
It’s completelyunderstandable that truly amazing hair sometimes seems, well, unbeweavable (yes, I said that). Hell, I  can admit that I’ve glanced at a woman’s hair one too many times searching for tracks or lace. It’s not something I’m proud of but I’m sure I’m not the only one.
My issue is with women who weave check and then feel the need to “investigate”. At first, I found it flattering that someone would find my hair long or thick or shiny enough to be confused for a weave. I happily answered the “Is that a weave?” question honestly and thought we’d be able to move on. My blood began to simmer at the response, “No! It can’t be!” and then felt a hand unceremoniously stuck in my hair as if in search of the truth. What…what just happened here?
Why did you ask me if you were hell-bent on feeling for tracks, anyway? Common courtesy went out the window when you were feeling around my scalp! Secondly, you asking me a question and then calling me a liar means you question my integrity. If you’re bold enough to ask me if the hair on my head is mine, why wouldn’t I respond honestly? If I’m rocking a wig, I’m thefirst person to tell you it ain’t mine because I have no shame in my game. 
My biggest issue with weave checking, though, is the implication that black women having long hair is so far-fetched that our only resort is to add extensions. Good genes or a receipt are the only methods many of us believe are at our disposal to achieve long hair. How crazy is that?! We’ve bought into the hype that black hair “just doesn’t grow” so when someone accomplishes that task, we’re unable to process it. They’re an  outlier, not the norm.
Just like I mentioned in my article addressing my love for black hair, yes, it may be more challenging for us to grow our hair but it’s not impossible! There is a wealth of information at our fingertips in the form of textbooks, hair boards, blogs, and YouTube channels yet many of us are ignorant to the idea of healthy hair maintenance. This is one of the reasons why I talk hair care with women I meet. It’s not just  for my enjoyment but also to encourage and enlighten. If it were up to me, every black woman on the face of this earth would be on a healthy hair journey. 
I also want to address those on the receiving ends of weave checks. I know these situations can lie somewhere between hilarious and humiliating but take heart; it means you’re doing something (or a series of somethings) very right! Depending on who the weave checker is, you may have an opportunity to put a bug in this person’s ear about taking care of their hair. Being secretive about your regimen won’t hinder your progress so share the wealth! Someone put you on so, if the opportunity arises, you should try to do the same.
Have you ever been weave checked? Did you handle it graciously or fly off the handle? Be honest, this is a safe space! Why do you think women weave check you in the first place?

Original post found here.